Monthly Archives: September 2013

It’s no secret…we know our kids names are a little different. Have you ever wondered why or how we came up with their names? We get asked often…especially on Bonus. They always ask twice, as if they miss heard what I said. Nope you heard right! It’s Bonus!!

Here’s the story if you’re interested.

Jeremy and I have been together for 11 years.  Marley was 2 when I met Jeremy. We always knew we wanted kids together and talked about it often. Believe it or not, we had both boys named 5 years before we ever got pregnant. These names weren’t something we threw together…they were perfectly planned.

Atticus Beeker Shock was born February 21st, 2008. We always loved the name Atticus. Most people assume it’s from the book To Kill a Mockingbird. I hate to break it to you, but it’s not. Jeremy recently read the book and loved it! He is proud to have his own little Atticus running around, but sadly had no importance to us when choosing his name. Beeker is like the muppet, but spelled differently. Beaker is Jeremy’s favorite muppet, but I wanted it spelt Beeker. I just liked the way it looked better. We had a few family members think we were pulling a joke on them. We wouldn’t really name our kid that, would we? We sure would! And we did!! Atticus Beeker is the perfect name! The name Atticus isn’t really as rare as you’d think. We come across quite a few on a regular basis. We haven’t ever met one with Beeker as his middle name yet!

My sweet Bonus Gibson Shock. This story is funny and a little embarrassing at the same time. Let me just break it to you quickly….Bonus is named after a cat. Yes…I said cat. Laugh all you want too!!!  Jeremy and I had moved in together and a friend mentioned she had kittens. We’d just got settled into our new apartment and thought a cat would be a great addition to our new little family. Kittens are adorable and instead of one, we ended up with two! Two of the best cats you could ever ask for. Manny and Bones. They were like our kids. We loved those cats. Sadly we don’t have the cats anymore. That in itself is a sad story that makes me mad every time I think about it. But, I won’t go into all that! Sometimes we called Manny-Manuel and Bones-Bonus. Gibson is a family name on the Shock side and a name we both really liked. One day one of us called the cat Bonus and it just clicked. Bonus Gibson. It was perfect. I guess you could say purrrfect. Hahaha I crack myself up! Most people assume Bonus was an accident. He wasn’t. We had his sweet name picked out years before we decide to try for baby number 2, and again people couldn’t wrap their head around his name. My grandma said “Well, I guess we can call him Bo!” I don’t think so….my childs name is Bonus! That’s what he will be called. It’s funny how normal it is now. They don’t even think twice about it.

I found this and it pretty much sums up what I’m trying to say, but couldn’t find in my own words.

On personalities attached to names:
“As a researcher, I have to say that we don’t know what, if any, the effects of names are. However, as a parent, my intuition tells me that it’s 100 percent true that it’s not the dominant effect on the human you become, but it probably plays a certain role. The name probably puts some constraints on you and opens up some opportunities. In my kids’ case, I know that, because they have the weirdest names in their schools, people have known who they are well before they’ve met them.”

I agree with what he says. Everyone already knows who Atticus and Bonus Shock are. I ran into a girl from high school last week and here’s how she introduces me to her husband. “Honey, this is Stephanie…she’s the one with the kids named Atticus and Bonus!” Yep…that’s me!! These kids are 4 and 5….by the time they are 18 everyone will know them and they’ll be impossible to forget.

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Here’s one of our favorite pictures of them. Talk about unforgettable. I thought you’d enjoy it!

We have one more boy named picked out. I’m not sure at this moment in life if we will have another child. If we do, people will be surprised once again. I won’t ruin the surprise for ya. If we get pregnant, I’ll make sure and let you know what name we have come up with next! Believe me…it’s a good one!

Have a great night!

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I bet you guys thought I forgot about blogging tonight! NOPE!! It’s 3 a.m. and I’m still awake.

I’ve had a full day of crafting, working on the magazine, and cleaning. The boys were pretty good today. Not as much fighting as yesterday! Yippee!!

I just finished a card for my moms partner. Cari’s birthday was September 19th and we were in Eureka Springs on vacation. I should have made her card before we left…that just didn’t happen. So I did it today! Better late then never, right?

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In the picture from left to right: Me, My mom Tricia, Cari, and my brother Brody.

It’s not really a birthday card…more like a ‘We love you! Sorry I didn’t mail you a birthday card!’ type of card. Does that make sense?

I did some Halloween crafting today as well. Tomorrow the boys and I are going to paint mini pumpkins. That should be fun! I’m looking forward to Halloween. The weather is changing and I am loving the cooler temps. I need to get the fall decor out. Maybe I’ll get to that tomorrow.

It’s getting late. A few episodes of Portlandia and then I’m off to bed.

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When do kids start getting along? Ever?! Atticus is 5 and Bonus is 4. I love how close they are in age and I have hope that one day they will be best friends forever. It seems like today has been nonstop with them. They are constantly fighting over something.  If Atticus has a toy, Bonus wants it. If Bonus is watching a movie, Atticus wants to watch something else. It goes on and on. How do you make it stop??

Besides the constant bickering, I got a lot of stuff done today. I did a lot around the house, made a great lunch, and helped my mom-in-law rearrange her living room. I didn’t get a chance to do my crafting, but I have all day tomorrow to work on it. 

The boys are sleeping in the living room again. They love sleeping on that air mattress. I can hear them watching Funniest Pets and People and they are cracking up. It’s so sweet to hear them giggling together. I’d rather hear giggling then fighting any day! image

Even though they test my patience almost everyday, I still love these little cuties more than ever. I can’t imagine what my life would be like without them in it.

While I was over helping the mother-in-law, I snagged a few movies we hadn’t seen yet. I’m off to take a shower and pop some popcorn for a movie night with the hubs. 

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Today…what can I say about today? I can go ahead and apologize right now for this being a short post. It’s almost 1 am and Bonus just went to bed. I don’t know why he was up so late tonight. He was in bed early last night and up early this morning. My guess is he had a lot of sugar/soda at Gram Grams house. I had to drag him to come home. He loves getting spoiled by Gram Gram. I wondered today how long he’d stay if I didn’t pick him up. I think he’d stay for a week before he even thought about wanting to come back home. I’m not sure how I feel about that. Atticus hates being away and Bonus loves it. They are total opposites in every way possible.

We blew up the air mattress, the kids call it the bouncy bed, and had popcorn and movie night in the living room. It’s one of our favorite things to do and we haven’t done it much in the last few months. Sometimes we drag the kids mattresses in there and ‘camp out’ all night playing Wii, watching movies, and eating yummy snacks. Those are my favorite nights!

We’re supposed to get some much-needed rain tomorrow. I’m looking forward to the rain and staying inside. I don’t think it’s going to rain all day, but it’ll make for a great craft day. I have so much crafting to get caught up on. I missed a few birthdays while we were in Eureka, so I need to get cards made for the next time I see those people. If I were smart….I would of had them ready and mailed before our trip. Shame on me!!!!

I must get some sleep. I’m all kinds of tired.

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Hey friends! (It’s okay to call you that, right?) I had a pretty great day today. Nothing super exciting happened, but you know those days you just feel great? Well…that was me today.

I am not a morning person and I had to wake up early. If I wake up on my own at 7 a.m. that’s fine, but I hate waking up to an alarm. (I don’t care what time it is. I hate it.) Anyway…I woke up early and did my morning routine. Surprisingly feeling great. I had to be at work by 9, so I hit the road by 8:30. (I work part-time for my family’s business 2-3 days a week.) I could tell my step-mom was not in a great mood as I arrived and that worried me. Normally she is all smiles. She was outside as I pulled up and I could already sense her distress. As soon as I got out of the car I said “Good morning sunshine!” She gave me a half-smile and we walked in. 

I stayed positive and we had our normal morning chit-chat. I know she’s been stressed lately. It happens to the best of us. We are really good at keeping each other on the right track. We support each other on our weight loss journeys and positive mindsets. If we need to rant…we let it all out…we get it out of our systems and we move on. It works well for us. I knew I’d eventually get a smile back on her face by the end of the day! 

Here comes the boring part…we worked. And we worked. We were actually really productive today! Yay us!! I could tell the longer the day went on, the better she was starting to feel. She was starting to talk more, smiling, and being her regular self. (It might have helped that she got good news at lunch, but I like to imagine it was all me!) We have a lot of fun together. Even though we are ‘working’ it doesn’t seem like work. It seems like a productive day with my friend. A great friend at that. 

Once my work day was over, I headed home to see the family. My mother in law took us out to dinner tonight. My hubbys brother is in town, so we all had dinner together. We had mexican…my fav! Afterwards, I swung by my grannies and chatted with her for a bit. She didn’t have her hearing aids in, so she was loud as ever tonight! 

So…see what I mean? I didn’t do anything super awesome today, but overall it was great! I had a great attitude for most of it! I mean sure…I can think of a few times I gave my husband the evil eye, but that’s to be expected right? 😉 

I like days like today. Normal days. Where everything just seems to fall in place. 

It’s nice to stop and smell the roses sometimes. Even on the days you’d least expect it.

I’m grateful for my family today. 

I’m also grateful that tomorrow is FRIDAY!! 

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Today was a good day. I’m not going to lie and say I had the best attitude all day, but overall great day.

Granny watched the boys for us while we took care of some stuff. It was nice to get that time with Jeremy. It’s rare  that we get away during the day with no kids. We met up with my friend Cindy and had lunch. She is from Arkansas and travels here with business once a month. I picked where we ate, so I was pleased with the selection!

Back to my attitude…It wasn’t horrible, but it definitely needs some work. I am catching myself throughout the day and I know that something isn’t right. Maybe it’s hormones? Maybe I’m just crazy? I tell myself I’m not crazy! Does that make me crazy? My husband says yes! 🙂

I guess it’s a good thing that I realize I’m doing it. I just need to learn how to catch myself and pull myself from that zone faster. Why should I waste my emotions on something that’s really not that big of a deal? So what if my husbands computer is louder than id like it to be at 11 o’clock at night. Will it make the situation better if I snap at him and tell him it’s annoying me? NO! He’d probably just laugh at me and go on watching his YouTube video!

I need to remember to not sweat the small stuff.

Focus on what is actually important.

You’d think that wouldn’t be so hard. For someone like my husband, it’s not. I’m glad I have him here to keep me in check.

I was faced with something today that I didn’t really want to deal with. I had a bad attitude at first, but it slowly wore away. I realize now it’s not a big deal, but I make it a big deal in my head. Then what happens? I stress out. Is it worth it? Never.

It may take sometime, but I want to will change. I want to be the best that I know I can be. The best wife, mother, friend, business partner, etc.

Today was a good day. I’m making progress and that’s what counts.

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Remember back a few posts when I went on about life and how I need to stop taking it for granted? Well…I should go back and read it.

I’ve been in a funk the last few days. I don’t know why. I’ve just been in one of those moods where certain people just get on my last nerve. I get tired of hearing people complain…it could be about the simplest thing…they just go on and on. I think to myself “Stop complaining!” (I think to myself because I’m to chicken to say how I actually feel) So, I come home and rant about how everyone’s driving me nuts to Jeremy.

How productive is that? I’m complaining about people complaining!!!

It’s horrible and I catch myself feeling that way, but why can’t I just pull myself out of the mood? If I know I’m just complaining, why do I keep doing it? It’s like a never-ending cycle.

I really need to meditate. I find myself so busy through out the day. By the time I get into bed…I blog…and then I’m ready to crash! I tell myself I’m too busy to take a minute for myself and relax. Calm my mind.

I need to make a change. Probably a few. I need to get in a new frame of mind.

Tomorrow I have to take care of some business. I’m trying to stay positive. It shouldn’t take long, but I have to meet up with someone who I would really rather not see. This is a perfect time for me to practice what I preach. Let’s take care of business, smile, and move on! Luckily, I get to have lunch with my friend from Eureka and Jerms afterwards!!

Oddly enough….writing this blog has helped me. It really puts into perspective of how ridiculous I can be!!

Now all I need to do is put this stuff to use. Tonight…I shall take 20 minutes and relax. I will clear my mind and take a moment for myself.

Thanks for listening!

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P.S. I miss Eureka.